150 Questions to Ask Your Partner, From Light to Deep

EVERYDAY

What was the best five minutes of your day today?

Question 1 of 150

EVERYDAY

What's something small I do that you'd miss if I stopped?

Question 2 of 150

EVERYDAY

What's been taking up space in your head this week?

Question 3 of 150

EVERYDAY

If you could cancel one thing from this week, what would it be?

Question 4 of 150

EVERYDAY

What do you need more of at the moment: rest, fun or company?

Question 5 of 150

EVERYDAY

What's the last thing that made you laugh out loud?

Question 6 of 150

EVERYDAY

How do you want to spend our next free evening?

Question 7 of 150

EVERYDAY

What's something you're looking forward to in the next month?

Question 8 of 150

EVERYDAY

When did you last feel properly relaxed?

Question 9 of 150

EVERYDAY

What's the most annoying part of your routine right now?

Question 10 of 150

CHILDHOOD

What's your clearest memory from before you were ten?

Question 11 of 150

CHILDHOOD

Which room in your childhood home do you remember best?

Question 12 of 150

CHILDHOOD

What were you like as a teenager, honestly?

Question 13 of 150

CHILDHOOD

What did your family argue about most when you were growing up?

Question 14 of 150

CHILDHOOD

Who made you feel safest as a child?

Question 15 of 150

CHILDHOOD

What's something your parents did that you want to do differently?

Question 16 of 150

CHILDHOOD

What's something your parents did that you'd happily copy?

Question 17 of 150

CHILDHOOD

What did you want to be when you grew up, and what happened to that?

Question 18 of 150

CHILDHOOD

What was the first thing you ever saved up for?

Question 19 of 150

CHILDHOOD

Which friendship from back then shaped you most?

Question 20 of 150

PAST

What's the bravest thing you've ever done?

Question 21 of 150

PAST

What's a decision you'd make differently if you could?

Question 22 of 150

PAST

When was the last time you surprised yourself?

Question 23 of 150

PAST

What's the hardest year you've had, and what got you through it?

Question 24 of 150

PAST

Which compliment has stayed with you the longest?

Question 25 of 150

PAST

What's the kindest thing a stranger has done for you?

Question 26 of 150

PAST

What's a story about you that your friends always tell?

Question 27 of 150

PAST

What's something you used to believe strongly and don't anymore?

Question 28 of 150

PAST

Which job taught you the most, even if you hated it?

Question 29 of 150

PAST

What's an apology you wish you'd given or received?

Question 30 of 150

HOW WE MET

What did you actually think of me when we first met?

Question 31 of 150

HOW WE MET

When did you know this was going somewhere?

Question 32 of 150

HOW WE MET

What nearly stopped you from giving us a chance?

Question 33 of 150

HOW WE MET

What's your favourite memory from our first month?

Question 34 of 150

HOW WE MET

What did you tell your friends about me at the start?

Question 35 of 150

HOW WE MET

Was there a moment you almost said something and didn't?

Question 36 of 150

HOW WE MET

What's changed most about us since then?

Question 37 of 150

HOW WE MET

What's stayed exactly the same?

Question 38 of 150

US

What do you think we're best at as a couple?

Question 39 of 150

US

What's one thing we could do better?

Question 40 of 150

US

When do you feel closest to me?

Question 41 of 150

US

What makes you feel far away from me?

Question 42 of 150

US

What's our best shared habit?

Question 43 of 150

US

What tradition should we start?

Question 44 of 150

US

How do you know when I'm not okay?

Question 45 of 150

US

What do you wish I asked you about more often?

Question 46 of 150

US

What's something we've never talked about properly?

Question 47 of 150

US

If someone described us in one sentence, what would you want it to say?

Question 48 of 150

LOVE

What makes you feel most loved: words, time, touch, help or gifts?

Question 49 of 150

LOVE

What's something I do that makes you feel appreciated?

Question 50 of 150

LOVE

How did the adults around you show love when you were young?

Question 51 of 150

LOVE

Is it easier for you to give love or receive it?

Question 52 of 150

LOVE

What does a good day together look like to you?

Question 53 of 150

LOVE

What's the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for you?

Question 54 of 150

LOVE

What's unromantic but makes you feel cared for?

Question 55 of 150

LOVE

When was the last time you felt really proud of me?

Question 56 of 150

CONFLICT

What do you need from me straight after an argument?

Question 57 of 150

CONFLICT

Do you want space or closeness when you're upset?

Question 58 of 150

CONFLICT

What's a fight we keep having in different clothes?

Question 59 of 150

CONFLICT

What's something I say in arguments that hurts more than I realise?

Question 60 of 150

CONFLICT

How did people in your family handle anger?

Question 61 of 150

CONFLICT

What helps you calm down fastest?

Question 62 of 150

CONFLICT

Is there anything you've been holding on to that we should clear up?

Question 63 of 150

CONFLICT

How do you know when an argument is actually finished?

Question 64 of 150

CONFLICT

What's the best apology you've ever received?

Question 65 of 150

TRUST

What does trust look like to you day to day?

Question 66 of 150

TRUST

Is there anything you'd find hard to tell me?

Question 67 of 150

TRUST

What would make you feel more secure with me?

Question 68 of 150

TRUST

When did you last feel let down, by anyone?

Question 69 of 150

TRUST

What's a promise you've kept that nobody noticed?

Question 70 of 150

TRUST

What would betray your trust fastest?

Question 71 of 150

VALUES

What matters more to you: being right or being kind?

Question 72 of 150

VALUES

What's a principle you'd never compromise on?

Question 73 of 150

VALUES

What does success mean to you now, compared to ten years ago?

Question 74 of 150

VALUES

Who do you admire most, and why?

Question 75 of 150

VALUES

What do you want people to say about you when you're not in the room?

Question 76 of 150

VALUES

Is there a cause you'd give your time to?

Question 77 of 150

VALUES

How important is other people's approval to you, honestly?

Question 78 of 150

VALUES

What's something you believe that most people around you don't?

Question 79 of 150

MONEY

What did money feel like in your house growing up?

Question 80 of 150

MONEY

Are you a saver or a spender, and does that bother you?

Question 81 of 150

MONEY

What would you buy first if we suddenly had more?

Question 82 of 150

MONEY

What purchase do you still regret?

Question 83 of 150

MONEY

What's worth paying extra for?

Question 84 of 150

MONEY

How much should we be saving, in your view?

Question 85 of 150

MONEY

Would you rather have more time or more money right now?

Question 86 of 150

MONEY

What financial decision are we putting off?

Question 87 of 150

WORK

What part of your work would you keep if you could drop the rest?

Question 88 of 150

WORK

Do you want to still be doing this job in five years?

Question 89 of 150

WORK

What would you do if money weren't a factor?

Question 90 of 150

WORK

When do you feel most capable?

Question 91 of 150

WORK

What's the worst advice you've been given about your career?

Question 92 of 150

WORK

How can I support you better with work?

Question 93 of 150

FAMILY

How do you want to handle holidays with both families?

Question 94 of 150

FAMILY

What's something about my family you find hard?

Question 95 of 150

FAMILY

Who in your family do you most want to be like?

Question 96 of 150

FAMILY

What family habit do you want to leave behind?

Question 97 of 150

FAMILY

How often do you want to see your parents, really?

Question 98 of 150

FAMILY

What do you wish your family understood about you?

Question 99 of 150

FUTURE

Where do you want to be living in five years?

Question 100 of 150

FUTURE

What's on your list for the next twelve months?

Question 101 of 150

FUTURE

How do you picture an ordinary Tuesday for us in ten years?

Question 102 of 150

FUTURE

What would make the next year feel like a good one?

Question 103 of 150

FUTURE

Is there a risk you want to take but haven't?

Question 104 of 150

FUTURE

What would you regret not doing?

Question 105 of 150

FUTURE

How do you feel about getting older?

Question 106 of 150

FUTURE

What does retirement look like in your head?

Question 107 of 150

HOME

What makes a place feel like home to you?

Question 108 of 150

HOME

City, town or countryside, if you had a free choice?

Question 109 of 150

HOME

What's one thing you'd change about where we live now?

Question 110 of 150

HOME

How tidy do you actually want our home to be?

Question 111 of 150

HOME

What's your ideal Sunday at home?

Question 112 of 150

HOME

Which chore do you secretly not mind?

Question 113 of 150

CHILDREN

What kind of parent do you think you'd be, or are?

Question 114 of 150

CHILDREN

What do you want a child of ours to never doubt?

Question 115 of 150

CHILDREN

What scares you most about raising children?

Question 116 of 150

CHILDREN

How would we split the work fairly?

Question 117 of 150

CHILDREN

What did you need as a child that you didn't get?

Question 118 of 150

INTIMACY

What makes you feel wanted?

Question 119 of 150

INTIMACY

Is there something you'd like more of between us?

Question 120 of 150

INTIMACY

What's hard for you to ask for?

Question 121 of 150

INTIMACY

How do you like to be comforted when you're low?

Question 122 of 150

INTIMACY

What kind of touch do you like outside the bedroom?

Question 123 of 150

INTIMACY

When do you feel most attractive?

Question 124 of 150

GROWTH

What are you working on about yourself at the moment?

Question 125 of 150

GROWTH

What's a habit you'd like to break this year?

Question 126 of 150

GROWTH

Where do you want to be braver?

Question 127 of 150

GROWTH

What do you avoid, and why do you think that is?

Question 128 of 150

GROWTH

What have you changed your mind about recently?

Question 129 of 150

GROWTH

What do you need to forgive yourself for?

Question 130 of 150

GROWTH

What would the version of you from five years ago be impressed by?

Question 131 of 150

DEEP

What are you most afraid of losing?

Question 132 of 150

DEEP

When did you last feel truly understood?

Question 133 of 150

DEEP

What do you think happens after we die?

Question 134 of 150

DEEP

What's something you've never said out loud to anyone?

Question 135 of 150

DEEP

What would you want said at your funeral?

Question 136 of 150

DEEP

Do you feel like you're living the life you chose?

Question 137 of 150

DEEP

What's the loneliest you've ever felt?

Question 138 of 150

DEEP

What's a part of yourself you're still learning to accept?

Question 139 of 150

DEEP

If you could know one thing about your future, would you want to?

Question 140 of 150

FUN

What's your most irrational dislike?

Question 141 of 150

FUN

Which film could you watch every year forever?

Question 142 of 150

FUN

What would your perfect day include, hour by hour?

Question 143 of 150

FUN

What's the worst holiday you've ever been on?

Question 144 of 150

FUN

If we had to swap jobs tomorrow, how would it go?

Question 145 of 150

FUN

What's your useless superpower?

Question 146 of 150

FUN

Which three people would you invite to dinner, living or dead?

Question 147 of 150

FUN

What song would play when you walk into a room?

Question 148 of 150

FUN

What's the strangest thing you believed as a kid?

Question 149 of 150

FUN

If we won a year off together, what would we do with it?

Question 150 of 150